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Change – turn and face the strain

We all have our pain points and it’s good to try to work them out. For me, it’s the month of July. It begins with goodbyes, and ends with August. Living in a city and working through most of the summer, I find that everyone’s away in August and then September comes. I’m a year older and many of my friends are no longer there to celebrate my birthday with me.

And I feel a bit miserable. I have no control on the situation – they’re leaving, I’m staying. No packing or logistics for me, just the sadness of watching friends move away. No more improvised lunches mid-week with Maria, no late dinner with Isabel, no more Sunday lunches with Cath.

It’s that wretched feeling of lack. That feeling that I’m going to be missing out, that I’ll feel lonely, bored…just rubbish.


There’s friends and then there’s friends. And the close ones are few. I start to curse globalisation. If only we all lived in villages where everyone stayed put and everyone had their own role and knew one another.

I did experience that, and it didn’t work out for me. I’m a city girl. And I’m attracted to people who love to explore the world, so I’m bound to be saying goodbyes every year.

I just struggle with that moment of limbo, when friends are about to leave and I feel thrilled for them one minute, then worried about August…ugh! August!

And yet, every year, August flies by. I enjoy having to make an extra effort to come up with creative ways to engage in leisure activities and meet new people, with new stories. How about dance classes? Yes, that’s the nice thing about cities…there’s no end of stuff to do, no end of stories to explore. And then, it feels like a good time to start with new habits and take a step back and assess my life.

“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it and join the dance.” – Alan Watts

“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it(...)and join the dance.” –A. Watts Tweet This

August…the time to daydream, to sweat out all the anxiety of the year and explore new avenues. Maybe not that bad after all. People say we are always rushed, we don’t have the time to take stock of our lives… Spending the summer in a city gives you plenty of space to step back, and opportunities to try out new ways of living your life.

And that goes for life in general. Accept that change can be painful and daunting. Explore the opportunities that surround you. Embrace a world of possibilities. Trust in your ability to adapt. Grow.

Have you been dealing with change and uncertainty recently? I’d love to hear how you dealt with the situation.

Please use the comments section below or email me at charlotte(at) to share your thoughts:

  • What do you find challenging about change?
  • How do you deal with it?
  • How would you handle the situation if you thought of it as an opportunity to grow?

Do you know anyone who’s struggling with the idea of change? Share this article with them!


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